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"Sacred Sexual Secrets Newsletter" April/May 2002 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Published by Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees & Dhyan Somraj Pokras
(c) Copyright 2002 by Tantra At Tahoe
"Sacred Sexual Secrets" is a free publication of Tantra At Tahoe. This newsletter is distributed by private email every month to special souls interested in sacred Eastern sexuality, relationship intimacy, Tantric orgasms, Kama Sutra lovemaking, and all aspects of sexual health. It provides practical sex tips derived from the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the Kama Sutra plus modern sex research to help readers transform their love lives into an ever-expanding ecstatic journey.
Tantra At Tahoe is dedicated to helping everyone who desires better love, sex, and intimacy with both long-distance learning and hands-on training. We offer email courses, telephone coaching, live sensual experiences, and private Tantric Initiations to help you reach astounding heights of sexual ecstasy.
Our Motto: Deeper Into The Heart Of Sex
This newsletter is by SUBSCRIPTION ONLY! You're receiving this email because you've communicated with Tantra At Tahoe. If this is in error, please see the unsubscribe instructions at the end of this issue.
Favorite Tantric Quotes
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"You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than
in a year of conversation." ------- Plato
In This Issue...
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"The Positive Side Of Life"
"How We Made April Ecstatic But Lost
A Newsletter Along The Way"
"Typewriter Sex"
"Save 25% on Charge Your Spirit With Passion"
"Make Your Life Everything You've Ever Dreamed Of
With Long-Distance Tantra"
"Save 10% on Siren's Secrets"
"Ecstatic Sex - How Can We Describe
An Out-Of-This World Experience?"
"Give Your Opinion & Win!"
"Contact Info, Privacy Statement, Unsubscribe Instructions"
Client Comments...
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"Thank God I have someone I can ask these extremely intimate questions and not feel embarrassed. It is a relief to know that there really is nothing wrong with me, that perhaps I just need to relax and delve into the spiritual side of sex! Never thought I'd hear myself say that there is such a thing, however one hopes for a better life and so we look for explanations where perhaps we thought there was none!" --------------- Maureen from Canada
Tantric Poem...
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Living on Earth is expensive,
but it does include a free trip
around the sun every year.

How long a minute is
depends on what side of the
bathroom door you're on.

Birthdays are good for you;
the more you have,
the longer you live.

Happiness comes through doors you
didn't even know you left open.

Ever notice that the people who are late
are often much jollier
than the people who have to wait for them?

Most of us go to our grave
with our music still inside of us.

If Walmart is lowering prices every day,
how come nothing is free yet?

You may be only one person in the world,
but you may also be the world to one person.

Some mistakes are too much fun
to only make once.

Don't cry because it's over;
smile because it happened.

We could learn a lot from crayons:
some are sharp, some are pretty,
some are dull, some have weird names,
and all are different colors....but
they all exist very nicely in the same box.

A truly happy person is one who
can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Have an awesome day, and
know that someone
who thinks you're great
has thought about you today!..
"And that person was me."

---------- Mark Brown, D.C.

(Our favorite chiropractor and Truckee friend.)
Welcome From The Editors...
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Welcome subscribers, new and old. Instead of mourning the end of an ecstatic ski season, we went to Florida to introduce new people to Tantra at the LifeStyles Conference. And, of course, to play. When we get together at events like this with our extended Tantric family, the outpourings of friendship, intimacy, and passion are a pure blessing.
Being in Miami Beach, we couldn't resist dallying for nearly a week diving and making love in the Florida Keys. Do we need exotic locations to experience ecstatic sex? No, but it sure didn't hurt.
We did lose our April newsletter along the way, though. OK, let's be honest. We enjoyed life instead of writing to you. Isn't living life fully what Tantra is all about? We're going to do our damnedest to make it up to you with this message, discounts on our services, and - a new feature - special offers on adult products.
As we've been cleaning up all the emails we came home to, we've been adding lots of great listings about Tantra, music, books, and products at...
In fact, our new friend Angela is offering you below a 10% discount just for being a "Sacred Sexual Secrets" subscriber. And we strongly encourage you to check out the erotic Tantric art at our friend Leonard's site, <>, and <>. If you don't know what a yoni is, Leonard's site will show you in all its glory.
Love from Tantra At Tahoe who is...
Dhyan Jeffre and Dhyan Somraj
Please, forward this newsletter to all your friends, family, and lovers who might be interested!
You may quote anything included with the following attribution:
"Reprinted from Sacred Sexual Secrets Newsletter ©2002"
Juicy Joke...
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A husband and wife decided they needed to use "a code" to indicate that they wanted to have sex without letting their children in on it. They decided on the word "typewriter."
One day the husband told his five year old daughter, "Go tell your mommy that daddy needs to type a letter."
The child told her mom what her dad said and her mother responded, "Tell your daddy that he can't type a letter right now because there's a red ribbon in the typewriter." The child went back to tell her father what mommy had said.
A few days later the mom told the daughter, "Tell daddy that he can type that letter now."
The child told her father, and then returned to her mother and announced, "Daddy said never mind with the typewriter, he already wrote the letter by hand."
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At Tantra At Tahoe, we believe the best way, the traditional way, for you to learn Tantra is through private Tantric Initiation - where we personally demonstrate and coach you in person. We offer intensive private two-day sessions for those who are totally committed to incorporate sacred sexual practice into their lovemaking.
But what if you're not ready yet for the cost, time, or commitment of diving in so deeply?
That's what "Charge Your Spirit With Passion" solves! As an easy first step to learning Tantra, we've transformed the first stage of our Tantric Initiation into a teleconference course that you can afford. And you can study and practice in the comfort and privacy of your own bedroom. After you register, we send you included materials at no extra charge (books, CDs, emails), teach you by telephone, and guide your exercises through real-time dialogue.
Can you really learn Tantra long-distance? Well, read on for this month's article which explains with a resounding "YES!"
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click on "Charge Your Spirit With Passion" and then the BUY IT button. When our shopping cart appears, enter this code...
to get your discount. Hurry, it expires May 20.
Favorite Tantric Quotes
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"The richness of your life is in direct proportion to the passions that you develop." ------------ Harold Gregg
Client Comments...
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"Jeffre: Your INTIMACY ebook is a lot of fun. We played with it today. We have on more then one occasion revved our engines by playing with one of the "Intimacy" practice sessions. Thank you, we really appreciate your book and find it resonates and is a lot of fun!" -------- Michael & Cheryl from California
Featured Article...
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* Transform your intimacy into a deep spiritual rapture!
* Supercharge how strongly you feel sensations in your body!
* Open your inner channels to delicious surges of energy!
* Make each lovemaking session an unforgettable ecstatic high!

Do these things sound like something you'd be interested in? If so, then merging sex with spirit by including the joys of Tantra in your life is what you're looking for.

What's the best route for you to learn the bedrock practices of sacred sex?

• You could get lots of how-to books from But how will you decide what to read, what to do, and when you're doing things right?

• You could receive private instruction for $100 to $300 per hour. But what if there's no local instructor, and if you find one after lots of searching, how will you be sure you can trust them?

• You could attend a group workshop for $600 to $1500, if you're lucky enough to choose one that's right for you. But what if you don't have someone to attend with and don't want to be nude and sexual in public with strangers?

We know many people want to rekindle the fire of their sexual desire with a Tantra workshop. But the thought of doing that in public at a Tantric workshop provokes loads of anxiety. "Will the leaders make me do something I don't want to do?" "Will they ask me to talk about sex in front of others. Aaaah!" In spite of being a bit scary, it can be titillating and exciting. We know, because we've guided thousands of folks in groups, individual sessions, and live coaching to transform their lives through Tantra. And, believe us, we want to do the same for you when you're ready.

But how many of you are ready to invest the time and money to travel to beautiful Lake Tahoe for a once-in-a-lifetime experience after simply seeing our website and newsletters? Sure, we could bombard you with our graduate degrees, our decades of counseling and training, and glowing client testimonials. Regardless, if you haven't met us, read our ebooks, and put our personalized guidance into practice yet, this may be a lot to ask so early in our relationship.

We know the time, money, and, more importantly, the decision of who to entrust your intimate life with are all major challenges. That's why we offer long-distance versions of our introductory services. They're specifically designed for those of you who desperately want to get started easily, safely, and inexpensively.

To give you a real flavor of what this looks like, here are a few tips of what you can learn at home, how we teach it long distance, and the benefits you'd gain of learning this way. You can read the details of all of these services described here by clicking on...
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Tip #1: Start talking more about sex. Your desires and fantasies. Your fears and apprehensions. Your problems and successes. Your needs and offerings.

Want to know how we can help you long-distance? Our "How to Get Everything You Want in Bed" is a 4-session teleconference that helps you get clear on the kind of sex you want and how to get it. We know that for many of us communication, difficult at the best of times, is downright daunting in bed. On top of that, what turns some of us on changes all the time. Consequently, many lovers end up not always knowing what turns them on, asking for everything they want, and acting on what their partner desires in each moment. "How to Get Everything You Want in Bed" can help you change all that long-distance.

Benefit #1: Talking with us about what you want sexually and doing the exercises we teach you is so much more valuable and exciting than just reading a book.
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Tip #2: Build strong sexual muscles.

You have a busy life: home, work, family, friends, hobbies, sports, etc. We know you want to taste Tantra, it really appeals to you, but how can you possibly fit it into your life right now. You don't have any free time and even if you did, Lake Tahoe California seems so far away. "Oh well," you say, "Maybe later."

Now, you don't have to wait, you can get involved, juice up your sex life and find out what all these folks are talking about. You know you've been curious for a long time. Right?

Wherever, however, or whenever you start, one first step is clear. To soar to the heights of Tantric ecstasy, you'll need to build strong sexual muscles. A prime example is your PC muscle, the pubococcygeus. That's fancy medical talk for the muscle that connects your pubic bone above your genitals with the bottom of your spine, snaking around your family jewels.

Do you need to go to a workshop to learn the top ten PC exercises you need to repeat 50 times twice a day? No, obviously not. This is something we can easily email you. In fact, we're developing the first of several 10-week email courses to spread out your learning the various versions. Because it's part of his ebook Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery, Somraj wants to give the course away and call it "Sexual Muscles Of Steel." Jeffre thinks that's too yang (male energy) to interest women. What do you think? We'd appreciate your opinion, pro or con, about this. The title, not the free price, that is.

Benefit #2: Email courses fit YOUR schedule. The information and instructions are spaced out so you can pick them up when the time is best for you.
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Tip #3: Practice Tantra regularly at home.

You do know that Tantra is first and foremost a personal experience, right? Reading is a good start, but isn't enough. Over the years, we've read hundreds of self-help books of great value. You may have read some too. But, face it, most people don't make the changes they say they want. Why? Because they don't do the exercises, the practices in the book. Powerful ideas may stay in the mind, but if they don't make it to the heart or genitals, they won't change your intimate life.

The same is true of group workshops. They can be great while they're happening, but it's often difficult to incorporate what you learn into your everyday life.

With our "Men's & Women's Sexuality Coaching," you get the ultimate personalized counseling directly by phone. We guide you to choose the right things to study, the right exercises to do, and the right schedule for your situation. We support you with helpful suggestions, and gently urge you to actually DO the practices. As a result of an hour with us every week or whenever you need help, change is much more likely.

Sometimes single people interested in Tantra wait for the perfect partner to revolutionize their inner energetic life. Either they don't realize how vital solo Tantra is at the beginning of their journey, or they're stalling. No one can get clear on your inner act but you. That's why we wrote a major newsletter article about why your first steps are personal practice at home, even if you are partnered. See our January 2002 newsletter in our archives for the whole story at...

When we interview both partners together, we learn even more about their dynamics. Then we can guide each individual more realistically about what they need and how they're impacting each other.

Benefit #3: You get personalized advice and regularly scheduled follow-up. We give you assignments, help you schedule them in your busy life, and expect progress. That way you'll have to answer to someone who cares, providing the discipline and encouragement for you to change your sex life.
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Tip #4: Do dynamic processes like "Chakra Breathing Meditation" that are designed to cleanse, open, and activate your sexual energy channels.

If you haven't learned to manipulate the power emanating from your chakras, the seven energy centers in your body arranged from head to pelvis, you're fortunate. Why? Because you have some amazing life-altering transformations awaiting you when you do.

Fortunately, many of these dynamic processes come with rhythmic music on CD. We can teach you how to do them easily by phone. Often, long-distance coaching is essential to guide the a new student of Tantra to focus on the right energies. We can advise you how to work with the chakras, how to breathe, and how to deal with blocks that come up.

For your copy of "Chakra Breathing Meditation," see the meditation section of our resources page at...

Benefit #4: Whether you're single or not, you can play the CD anytime you choose to progress on your Tantric path.
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Maybe the biggest advantage of beginning Tantra long-distance is saving money. A workshop can cost a couple $800 to $3000 plus travel, food, and lodging. In contrast, our ebooks, email course, and teleconferences range from $15 to less than $300.

The best example of getting the most Tantric bang for your buck is our Charge Your Spirit with Passion teleseminar. It's a four-session introduction to Tantra which teaches the essential tools of summoning and channeling orgasmic energy, the key to full-body continuous Tantric orgasms. Charge Your Spirit with Passion is modeled on the first stage of our Tantric Initiation but at less than $300 is about a third of its price. Did you notice elsewhere in this newsletter that it's on special until May 20 at 25% off?

All in all, we believe that our approach to Long-Distance Tantra lets you take small, manageable, personalized, and affordable steps toward your vision of transforming your sexuality. You can read all the details and prices at...

In this short article, we probably haven't addressed all your concerns. So we challenge you to look inward and identify what's preventing you from moving forward. Send us whatever questions remain about how Long-Distance Tantra can be your path to a bright sacred sexual future.

Love and Goddess Speed Your Journey
Dhyan Jeffre and Dhyan Somraj

About The Authors...
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Dhyan Jeffre TallTrees, Ph.D. is a licensed SkyDancing Tantra Teacher with over 30 years of clinical experience specializing in relationships and human sexuality. Jeffre is co-author of "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love." She is a columnist, healer, counselor, workshop leader, artist, and avid skier whose advice is highly sought. As cofounder of Tantra At Tahoe along with her beloved husband, Somraj, Jeffre provides the feminine power which makes Tantric sexuality sacred.
Dhyan Somraj is the author of countless articles about Tantra, over 50 workshops, and 4 books including Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. During his 30 year career as a counselor, group facilitator, and trainer, Somraj has guided more that 20,000 people to lead more effective lives. He derives great joy from assisting others to release sexual inhibitions which block their pleasure so they can make lovemaking last and last and last. Somraj is a private pilot, avid skier and mountain bike rider, website designer, and ecstatic worshipper of the Goddess, Jeffre foremost among her manifestations.
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Our friend, Angela, who runs Siren's Secrets writes... "I know your readers will love some of Siren's Secrets -- and I'm happy to offer 10% off any purchase made between now and June 30th. Just tell your readers to include the coupon code "tantra10" at checkout, and ask them to have a lot of fun with their purchase!"
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Every time we make love, and that's often compared to other mature lovers, we give great thanks to the ecstasy we create together. Don't get us wrong, any kind of pleasure is great. But if you can create an other-wordly spiritually-exalted experience every time you engage in Tantric love play, you'll spoil yourself, fortunately. In next month's newsletter we'll give you a taste of unlimited states of passion and bliss from sacred sexuality in... "Ecstatic Sex - How Can We Describe An Out-Of-This World Experience?"
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Congratulations to our April winner, Lama Ocean, who won a free copy of Dhyan Jeffre's fantastic sex, love, and intimacy playbook "Hotter Sex, Deeper Love" just for taking a minute to fill out our last poll. Lama wrote "I am currently reading your "Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery." Thank you for your research. I owe you a great debt of gratitude for assisting my training as a Tantrika." You're welcome!
This is supposed to encourage you take our next poll about what makes sex ecstatic by clicking here....
Did it work? If it did, like Lama, you might be our next winner. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------
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It didn't take a Tantric guru to anticipate MONEY being the biggest obstacle for most people learning Tantra. We want to give Jeffre full credit for conceiving this poll and article about the least expensive way to learn Tantra and sacred sexuality, namely long distance. Here are some notable findings from this month's survey...
AGE: Half our readers are over 30 as expected. What we didn't expect is that male visitors average 10 years older than women.
SURFING: Women readers surf the net daily more than men but buy less often.
TANTRA EXPERIENCE: Though most of you have read books about sexuality, the vast majority, though curious, don't know much about Tantra.
MOTIVATION TO LEARN: Better sex was the number one reason why both men and women are interested. Growth and development and deepening connection with a partner followed closely. Three times as many women as men are pursuing Tantra to heal inhibitions or sexual wounding.
PREFERRED WAY OF LEARNING: The top two preferred ways of learning Tantra were to read a book or a website. Downloadable ebooks were three times as popular as printed books. Twice as many men and women preferred learning from an experienced lover in bed over a group workshop.
Men: Trust in authority or expert guidance of author or instructor.
Women: Fresh, honest, uninhibited, no-holds-barred advice.

The men's complete results are at...
and the women's are at...
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To help you revolutionize your sex, love, and intimacy, check out our previous articles in our newsletter archives at... <>.
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"Reaching Peak Sexual Ecstasy Every Time"
The secrets of summoning and running orgasmic energy throughout your body to achieve Tantric Orgasm at will.
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"Secrets Of Reaching Astounding Heights Of Ecstasy"
Why and how to shift your focus from explosive orgasm to pleasure in the moment.
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"Tantric Secrets To Jump-Starting Waning Desire"
How to find greater pleasure and sexual fulfillment when hormones decrease, health deteriorates, menopause occurs, or boredom sets in.
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"No Partner, No Tantra, No Sense! "
5 Tantric practices you need to start right now, whether you have a partner or not.
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"A Juicy Taste Of Tantra: Divine Oral Sex The Sacred Way"
How It's Way Different From Anything You've Experienced Before.
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"Freeing The Female Orgasm"
Six Tantric Essentials That Can Transform Every Woman's Love Life
Favorite Tantric Quotes...
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"Life is too important to be taken seriously." --- Oscar Wilde
Client Comments...
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"Somraj: Again thank you for your ULTIMATE EJACULATION MASTERY ebook. It's great! Actually I now manage to direct several big orgasms into my body without ejaculating. As told I told you before, I have been training for one year already, but your pelvis rocking exercise did the job. You were right about exactly what I needed." ------ Hans from Denmark
Juicy Joke...
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John was at home with his wife when he heard a knock at the front door. He opened it to see his friend Mike crouched, squirming, and clutching his hands between his legs.
"What's wrong?" John said.
"I've been hit by a bloody baseball!" said Mike.
Just then John's blonde wife, Tanya, came to the door and said, "Quick come in here and I'll look after you."
When John looked in the kitchen he saw Mike sitting on a dining chair. Tanya had a bowl of rose water and petals and was bathing his friend's penis with cotton wool and water.
"Jeez!" said John, "How do you feel?"
Mike turned and said "John, I think what your wife has done has helped a lot!" Then, holding his hand in the air he said, "But I still think I'll lose the nail!"
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The information contained in this document represents the current view of Tantra At Tahoe on the issues discussed as of the date of publication. We provide this free advice in the hopes that your conscious use will improve your sexual life. If you have a medical or psychological condition, please contact your health professional before acting on this advice. Our guidance is not intended as medical or psychological treatment, psychotherapy, or services best performed by a health professional. Information provided in this document is provided "AS IS" without warranty of any kind, either expressed or implied. You assume the entire risk as to the accuracy and the use of suggestions in this document. Without our personalized services, your results may vary.
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Tantra At Tahoe is...
Dhyan Somraj Pokras
Dhyan Jeffre
11200 Donner Pass Road # 146
Truckee, CA 96161
Office (530) 587-1317
Our motto: "Deeper Into The Heart Of Sex"
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